FOR THE DIGGER

For the digger

 I am not so good with group chats. Actually most of the groups an in on social media are muted for a year. I hate waking up to one thousand texts of a conversation i can't make head or tail of. But there is one particular group that i still scroll chatsThe participants always have something to discuss daily. The group is about sex awareness in university. On this particular day, someone came up with a topic on men and investment on relationships.

 I was irritated. Typically i am nothing close to a love phycatrist or a sex therapist. But i believe in being sober and making rational decisions at all times. The society at present has equalized everything to money. I am of the school of thought that believe and advocate that, money is not the root cause of all problems, but lack of money is! Think about it.

 If i have something of my own and you have your own, we share, but if i don't, i drain you real quick.It is the same thing with happiness. Somber moods are contagious and its worse in a relationship if independence is not mastered . It is about two individuals coming together to share happiness they already have.

 Men, when you go around telling the world that you invested in her, or a woman tells the world that she invested in him, what is investing? If you are using money as bait to make someone hold on to you, that's slavery. A relationship should be spontaneous, not where one feels like they are always under pressure to wear the trousers in any situation.

 So, during the group discussion, a man posts that, ladies are broke and always looking for a way out of their financial mess and hence end up using men as a ladder. My question here is, when she gets to the point of using you, are you asleep? And what are you dreaming about? That you are prince charming and want to elope with her in a white horse?

 Why would you speak ill  of a woman you love because she makes you work your ass off. My suggestion in this case is always one, build your woman into something that you want. Show her how to make an income if you don't want to spend your fortune on her. If she has one, then, be her motivation to grow and be better. 

 Otherwise, sitting somewhere, sending her twenty shillings credit, and fifty bob fare and some chocolate, the take to social media to rant about an investment,you need some schooling. Build a woman, even if she doesn't end up as a wife, you will have a great friend and business partner, life always has a way to reward the sober. But don't limit a woman to your cage because you don't want your investment to go un returned. That's not an investment that's a gamble. When you finally put your ring on it and your last name to hers, now give me a call about investment.

 And after i finished that, i got a reply " for the digger"

 DISCLAIMER!
This is my opinion. I stand to be corrected.ou want.

Comments

  1. Anonymous25 July 2019 at 22:14

    It's a good call, but remember, we are in a generation where people don't want to be friends anymore. I mean... relationship are games this day's. You hit and run..how do you build someone's fortune then forgets you in a split of a second?

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    1. Maria Njoroge 25 July 2019 at 23:47

      Am yet to see someone who does not give ultimatums. Men who use money as bait for women always end up the fool in the end. If she sees that all you got to give is money, my dear, they go for the exit and get someone who's a package, and you will remain saying she likes money

      No booboo😂 she likes money and something to back it up.

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    2. Anonymous26 July 2019 at 03:41

      So how can you invest on the gullible girl child🤔

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  2. Anonymous25 October 2019 at 03:40

    Very nice write up.

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